2nd entry tonight, because I have a dilemma...
I have two profiles on a dating site; one is public (has pics) one is anonymous (no pics/details). I enable the public one when I'm feeling even somewhat up to dating (set to local distances), and have the other set to "anywhere", just because I'm curious to see who's out there.
Problem 1) a local lady-friend of mine, with whom I've had lunch a few times, found my profile & sent me a message. (The way this particular site works is that you have to "mutually-like" them in order to reply.) We met through friends on the discussion board I moderate; we've been casual friends for years, and I think she's pretty ok. She's not, however, my type, in the least. I've known she was on there for a while, and have pointedly ignored that fact, because I'm not interested. Even before this message, I had a feeling she might be into me, because she would casually invite me to stop by her place to hang out/watch a movie/get a pizza because she "never goes anywhere/does anything". I've declined these offers, putting them off to my lack of energy to socialize (which is partly true).
Now that she's messaged me, I wonder if I should say anything? I have plausible deniability, since, if I'd already "passed" on her, I don't think her message would show up. I don't want to be an asshole, but I also don't want to have an "I'm not interested" conversation, and risk making things awkward. Opinions?
I was going to write about the private account issue I'm having, but after having written about it, I realize I sound like an idiot, and I can guess what everyone would say, so why bother? I can berate myself without any help, thank you very much... ;-)
Still, it's depressing and disappointing. But then, what isn't, in my life?
Hope everyone's holiday went well today, if you celebrate.
p.s. I spent over an hour trying to write a poem tonight, ending with most of a sonnet, but got fed up with it & deleted the whole thing. I know that somewhere in my archive there's a link to my poetry page, but since D-land archiving isn't working, I can't even organize the pages to remove (or re-post) them. Anyway, I'm not really one to promote my ridiculous crap, but if anyone does want to read it, leave me a note saying where I can send a link. I'll delete the note ASAP so the email addy won't be left public.11:43 p.m. - 2018-12-25
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