Just got a call from my sister, letting me know that my uncle passed away. He was probably my favorite, not so much because we talked a lot or got along so well, but because ever since I was a kid, I thought he was the coolest of my dad's siblings (We'll call him J for now). He was the youngest, and had a dry, quiet sense of humour that I really got. One of my other uncles is the one with whom I'm closest (call him D for now), and J was pretty much his best bud, so I'm sure he's not doing well.
From what my sis said, J developed an aggressive form of liver cancer, and it took him within a few short months - I don't know exactly how long yet, there aren't many details getting out. In a way that was typical of his stoic, emotionally repressed family, when J got bad, he decided that he didn't want anyone around to see him the way he'd become. I understand his thought process for that reasoning, considering his personality. He was always the most private/reclusive/quiet of the brothers. I always wondered if it was partly due to his having served in Vietnam, something he would never talk about (not that we really asked). It's sad though, because I really wish I'd been able to see/talk with him before he passed on. A small part of me is upset with him for that, but as I said, I really do understand his reasoning, whether or not I agree with it.
I guess there's going to be a service/gathering of some kind on the 18th of this month, but I'll have to wait for more details. I'm betting that, after the fiasco that was my other uncle's graveside service, there won't be anything of the sort. Of course, L had married again, and the service was his wife's idea. J was alone (a loner), and with that family being non-religious, it'll likely be a visitation, or maybe just a 'wake' of sorts.
There are only two brothers and one sister left, out of six siblings. The saddest part of this whole thing is that the only reason we ever get together anymore (literally) is when someone dies.
I'll have to remember to wear something of my dad's to the wake, so he can be there too. Maybe I'll get his watch back in time.
6:33 p.m. - 2018-08-01
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