Ran into a gal I used to see all the time when i picked up breakfast on the way to work most days. We were always friendly, even flirted a bit. She left, and I didn't see her again for a while. I ran into her once on one of the dating sites & we shared a couple messages, but that was it. I hadn't thought of her in a couple years, and then this weekend, I see her @ the pub, as a new hire. I recognized her when I heard someone mention her name, but I wasn't planning on saying hi, as I doubted she'd remember me. Not only did she remember, but she called me by my 1st & middle name! ?
We didn't get to talk, as I was on my way out, but I saw her again today when I stopped up for lunch. She came over & we talked for a few, she showed my a pic of her kid (maybe a year or 2 old?) and I did my best to properly compliment her son, while still being "not-a-kid-kind-of-a-guy" as I put it. Fortunately, I didn't come across as an asshole, because we kept talking. :-P
I'd mentioned how surprised I was that she not only remembered my 1st name, but both of them & she told me how she & some of the girls there had regular customers they remembered. and that they had a lot of (my 1st name's), but never met someone with my middle name, and that I was a very handsome guy, so it was easy to remember. I may or may not have blushed a bit (what? I never get compliments, shut up!), but managed an embarrassed "thanks". & told her it was really good to see her again. I asked when she would be working usually & it turns out she'll be there on the weekends, so we'll be able to catch up a bit more.
I was really interested in dating her back then (and still am, a bit) but I'm really not digging the kid thing. That's been the one consistent choice I've made about dating, and I still feel that way, but sometimes I really wonder if I'm using it as a convenient "out". I mean, even if I were open to casually dating someone with (a) kid(s), if it were to get serious, I think that would be a deal-breaker for me long-term, and it doesn't seem right to lead someone on, even/especially if we got along really well.
It probably doesn't really matter, as I doubt it will go anywhere, but it brought the kid topic up again in my mind & I just kind of need to talk through it. I'm sure the fact that I haven't had a date in months (years? I'm not counting KW, damnit!) and that I'm still quite lonely, has something to do with my wondering if I should consider it (and I don't necessarily mean her, just in general).
5:59 p.m. - 2017-05-29
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