I told you about meeting CC the other night, right? We cleared up a few misunderstandings, and she wanted to kind of "sit" with what we'd discussed for a bit. Well, I got an email from her (last night, I think?) that basically said that she missed me, and she wanted to talk a bit more, if I was up for it. At first, I was happy, and thought it was sweet that she admitted to missing me. (I get the feeling that she's been a "strong" woman for years, and that it must have taken a lot for her to admit that.) I've missed her too, I'm sure you guys know, but after a bit, I got to thinking...
The only thing that's changed is the fact that I'm likely going to be staying in town for my job for a couplefew years. We still have the other issues, and although I know they're not major, I still wonder if they're going to be a problem. I guess that's why we're going to be "talking" rather than just starting to see each other again, right? Because honestly, I'd love to be seeing her again, but I'm also looking forward to a couple things that might develop, the first of which is having Vivian come up here to stay for a few days; the other, is the possibilities with the Joker. And yes, I realize that these are just physical possibilities, but still, they're very tempting, and I'm loath to give them up! (selfish? yes. I'm a pig? well, yes...)
Ok, here's a question that just popped into my head - for you ladies, when you're seeing someone, what defines the relationship as being "exclusive"? Is it implied after a certain amount of time, or frequency of seeing each other? Or do you have a conversation about it? To me, dating is dating, until that conversation has taken place, which implies that it's still ok for both parties to date other people as well. Now, I'm not the kind of guy who cheats; I abhor the idea, and would never do that to someone, but I also feel that without agreeing to "monogamy", I'm free to date other people.
Is it unreasonable to think this way, or is it S.O.P. (standard operating procedure) in the dating world? I have no friends with whom to discuss this, so I'm looking to you guys to find out, what's the norm!? What's your ideal expectation, and what's the minimum you'll accept from a guy you're seeing? **(see below) Even though I think CC is great, it strikes me as a bit irresponsible to just stop looking, while taking the time to find out more about her.
So again, if you're so inclined, I'd be happy to hear any input you all might care to share!
** (It might also benefit you to know, as I think I've mentioned already, I'm been in a somewhat open relationship in the past; I've also found that overall, my *ideal* dating situation is that of a committed trio. And I don't mean just sexually, either. I've never had a threesome, and I don't know that it's that important to me. I do know that the most positive I've ever felt about life & myself was when I was "dating" two amazing women concurrently. (I felt that it brought out the best in me, emotionally, and I became the guy I've always wanted to be - positive, upbeat, fun, supportive... All of the positive traits I dig, and none of the negative.) Ideally, we would be an emotional unit, each physically/emotionally intimate with the other two. I just find the dynamic so much more energizing, and I feel fully capable of loving more than one woman equally.)
3:14 p.m. - 2010-10-05
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